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A roundup of some of my favorite things I've read and seen on the Internet recently!

For our white friends desiring to be allies  Advice for white people who want to become more aware of their privilege and how to be a true ally to POC. 

I also quite enjoyed this older article from The New York Times Magazine on White Debt.

Being white is easy, in that nobody is expected to think about being white, but this is exactly what makes me uneasy about it. Without thinking, I would say that believing I am white doesn’t cost me anything, that it’s pure profit, but I suspect that isn’t true. I suspect whiteness is costing me, as Baldwin would say, my moral life.

For me, whiteness is not an identity but a moral problem. Becoming black is not the answer to the problem of whiteness, though I sympathize with the impulse, as does Noel. ‘‘Imagine the loneliness of those who, born to a group they regard as unjust and oppressive and not wanting to be part of that group, are left on their own to figure their way out,’’ Noel wrote recently in his own narrative, ‘‘Passing,’’ the story of how he left a lower-middle-class family and a college education to work in factories for the next 23 years.
— White Debt

I read The Year of Living Danishly as well this month and I really enjoyed it. I'm always interested in how other countries might be doing things better or differently, so I loved this one!

I also finished Hillary Rodham Clinton's book What Happened on the day after Christmas, I devoured it in 24 hours. It made me angry and sad and... I don't even know what else. But it was definitely a necessary read. 

There's been a lot of discussion about sexual assault and harassment in light of the #metoo movement and I really enjoyed this article about women discomfort in the face of men's pleasure during sex. 

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Have y'all discovered I love Kelle Hampton's writing?? This one was posted on her Facebook with this photo (Photo not mine!).  

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Oh hey sea star. Looks like life’s been a little rough lately. I mean, seriously, every single arm. Way to hit a sea star when she’s down.

I know you’re barely hanging on and it feels good to bask in the sunshine out here away from everything that’s been busting you up, but the thing is—you’ll dry up and die up here.

That deep scary ocean that’s taken you for a few rough rides is also what keeps you alive, and it’s waiting for you. Keep swimming. Choose a new current. You don’t want to stay up here. This pleasant-for-a-moment thing will eventually kill you. You need moving tides and challenging waves and currents that will push you on new sea adventures where you can meet new sea star friends (and keep an open mind—urchins are nice too. And coral. And anemones. Different is good.)

I’m going to help you out here and carry you back in. You’ll be fine. In fact, those arms will regrow in no time.
(Psssst. Head toward Greece. I heard it’s beautiful there.)
— Kelle Hampton

I'm also really enjoying The Homesteady's blog over here! 

I'm so in love with this photo blog called Lamb Loves Fox. I love the feeling of her photos so much! And her kids are freaking adorable. 

I stumbled across The Scout Guide the other day when researching things to do in a new city. They've got tons of guides to different cities if you're looking for fun travel ideas. 

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“Well,” I explained, pointing out the rubric, “there’s M, S and N. M means ‘most of the time,’ S means ‘some of the time‘ and N means–” My mind jumped to “none of the time,” but I stopped and looked back up at the key. N doesn’t mean “none.” Do you what N means? N might be the most valid measure of competence and progress, equally applicable to us all.

Needs more practice.

We are all so focused on mastering tasks. In fact, we’re beyond that. EXCEED, we think. Brett took one look at the honors list in the program at the last graduation we attended and laughed. “5.0? Seriously? Dude, when I was in high school, I would have thrown a party for a 3.8.” The truth is, the best lessons in life aren’t mastered or exceeded. They are locked in the “am learning” stage. And thank God, because otherwise I’d feel like a big fat failure.

My life report card would consist of a stapled note noting my positivity, my big heart, my great use of color. And underneath it, a giant N. Needs more practice.

I’ve read this post many times before… but if you are having a bad day or need a good laugh, go and read this post by Jenny Lawson (aka the Bloggess)

The Bloggess just posted another great post for mental health awareness month, how it has affected you and what helps you. The comments are lovely!  

Love this quote from Anais Nin:

We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.

If you're not getting Goodread's quotes of the day sent to you in your email you are missing out! I love a good quote! 

Sunday Funday Links I Love

By documenting ourselves, we’re valuing the intrinsic good that we bring to the lives of others. Because we’re not just girlfriends, wives, mothers, and daughters. We’re humans that are loved and love. That make funny jokes, and have good hair sometimes, and make awesome lipstick choices.

From this Letter from the Editor regarding women taking selfies. 

Are you obsessed with ballet like I am? You’ll love the City Ballet film series then!

If you’re looking for some amazing photographers to follow who happen to be moms, this list is for you! Great way to stock up your instagram feed with amazing photographers! 

 Love historical fiction YA?? Not sure what book to read next? Well have I got a graphic for you!

15 train rides you have to take. UGH TRAINS, my favorite!